Monday, August 24, 2020

Gay men gardening and cooking stereotype?

Mark Villifana: I sometimes wonder if a lot of people, straight women and gay men, write Asian men off before they even get to know them. As a gay Asian man, I feel as though very few men have ever expressed interest in me and if they have, they've generally been the 65 year old, starved for sex kind. Many of my friends and even people I don't know have told me that I'm attractive (although they were probably lying) and I've never thought of myself as ugly. But I feel like so many people automatically see Asian men as being ugly and, thus, not datable. I hate to sound so depressed, but sometimes it really bums me out. I wish some guys, regardless of appearance, would just give me a chance. I sometimes think I'll be one of those lonely old bitter men who never found anyone decent in life. Should I just resign myself to being lonely? I know White guys are often way hotter than Asian guys, but is anyone decent out there who can see past that?...Show more

Hans ! Sachetti: girls like to garden. people assume gay guys are super feminine so they attach girl stuff to gay stuff

Wally Perrien: Straight men usually enjoy gardening. I havent heard of this one before about gay men and gardening as it is such a dirty practice! I thought lesbians liked gardening..

Elinore Schlinker: Well, I don't think it's too off the mark, although of course it's not a great idea to stereotype. My dad is gay, and he is an avid gardener. Not much of a cook, but loves to bake. he also was a drama professor, a costume designer and a makeup artist - go figure. My dad's ex-partner is a gardener and florist. one of my best friends is gay and he likes to garden (veggies) and loves to cook (makes the world's best brownies!) he also is really into decorating and making a lovely home. We lovingly call him Martha, and so do other gay friends by the way. Another close gay friend writes musicals and tap dances. All gay stereotypes embodied in real ga! y people! I can honestly say that I don't know a single straig! ht man who likes to do any of the above. I think stereotypes come from our observations of people. You may not like to admit it, but a lot of your sisters do like gardening, cooking, theater, musicals, and Judy Garland. ...Show more

Leisa Brodnex: Good luck getting a man with that attitude

Ira Porietis: I like ASIAN guys... I think they're pretty cute...

Brice Greczkowski: I think what you said here is not true.For those who write off Asian gay guys before they know them surely have personal and emotional problems with theirselves. Not you. They cannot deal with something that are different from theirselves. They cannot accept the fact that in this planet called earth, there are so many races of gays that not only Caucasian, but also Asian.I know many Caucasian gays how are so narrowminded and stuck up with their Caucasian things. They close themselves to other ethnic group out there and choose to get attached only with other caucasians. Indeed this is t! heir problem not yours.You didn't ask God to be caucasian or black or whatsoever you prefer to be, did you? You didn't ask God to be asian either, did you? So, you were born as asian, just because that's the way you are. Those guys that write off asians or any other races before they know them, really have to deal with the fact that they are NOT living in the white world or caucasians world only. But they are living in THE world. Not all white guys hotter than asians or black. I know many many white gay guys are ugly, fat, or skinny and scary thin before. And I also know many many gorgeous, cute, very hot and good looking asian gay guys as well. So, it's not true what you said that White guys are often way hotter than Asian guys, not true- I defy this. Why in the world would you have to give up to be unlovable? Who made that rule and policy? Who said that? I believe that there are so many white guys out there who really like and even love you as an asian- you just simply h! aven't found them yet.... you just always found the people who belittle! and disgrace asian guys. Keep on trying and never give up on this. Be strong, have faith because you ARE special person and have down to earth self confidence within yourself that you are NOT the one who has to deal with this issue, but those who judge you and scrutinize you base only on your race, have to deal with it.This is the world, obviously contains of so many races and ethic groups from everywhere. For those who cannot accept imperfections and differences may live in their own pigeonhole and typecast themselves, but it shouldn't stop you to move forward finding what you want for your life and to be the better person who you are today.....Show more

Bud Espenshade: I am just curious why I see most good looking men who are handsomely attractive in the face usually are the ones who don't like women? Not necessarily the ones who take care of themselves and are neat,clean, or dress really nice because average looking gay men can do that too. I mean the ones that ar! e exotic looking or pretty boys that surprisingly don't like women. ( This is happening a lot for me so please don't take it the wrong way.)

Russell Mckinzie: I would like to help but you haven't given enough information about you or your intentions with her. Your question is subjective so I would need to know something about the subjects.Take her to a restaurant, talk a lot, make another date, take her home.

Foster Koopmann: WO! Enough with the depression. Since when did whitey become some super stud? As a whitey I would say that was a black mans department. If we are only talking about body parts.Lots of Narcissism in the gay life. That may make for hot NSA sex when you are looking for someone with which to spend tonight. If you are looking for may be the next 50 years or so, you need to look a lot deeper, regardless of what is under the hood. Depression will eat you up and make you a bad partner for anyone. You need to address that issue. You can't hide depr! ession and few folks are looking to be your nursemaid. Once you have a ! better outlook try craigslist.org. If you find no ads that work for you write your own. There are plenty of consenting adults just waiting to get their needs filled, could some of those needs be yours?...Show more

Coralie Goldsberry: I hate gardening and cooking too.The gardening thing may have come "Uphill Gardener", which is a derogatory term for a gay man.

Lynn Hollars: I think Asian people are just like anybody else,and Dave P is an idiot.

Dionna Doyel: I have a vegetable garden every year and I love to cook. I also wear my hair in a female bob hairstyle down to my mid neck and it is undercut so it curls under at the ends with bangs. I don't give a hoot about stereotypes. I am who I want to be.

Jestine Osumi: well I'm not really a camp gay kind of guy but i do enjoy gardening and cooking but as for the rest nah

Rena Pepe: christians think you will burn for eternity. remember that about them

Maurice Breuning: We are good freinds and ! enjoy each others company but lately she seems more into me, wanting to touch my hands more and looking at me and smiling. But she has just broken up with her boyfreind. I want to do it before the summer hols, help please:-)

Tricia Dossous: Well there could be several reasons for this..One could be the area you live in.Two is the "popular stereotype" rule. In which there's pretty much a stereotype starting for everyone except involving things the original 'starter' is.People are in general shallow. Many people would take a person for their body, or exclude them for the same reason....Show more

Madge Voice: I am a Christian women & have been very attracted to Asian men since I was a teenager.

Rosio Pasculli: There are many handsome men. Some of them are gay and some are not. I speak from my own experiences, not yours.

Craig Virani: The same place that Gay men are all Florists, Hairdressers, or Interior Decorators. For God sake!

Particia Thorton:! It's just because it's a feminine thing to do, so people stereotype th! em with those things. Like hair dressers, although, most of the gay men that I am friends with ARE hair dressers! LOL, anyway, it's like people stereotype me as ditzy, just because I'm blonde! People just get bored and dream things up. None of my gay friends like to cook OR garden either.

Craig Virani: I never heard of these stereotypes for gay men. I've heard of the following: hair stylist, make-up artist, clothes designer, interior decorator/designer, florist, wedding/events planner, photographer.

Tana Dumoulin: I know of no discounted Asian baseball players.

Isreal Kochheiser: I hate gardening and I'm not that great when it comes to cooking. There are some things that I can make, but not many.I'm learning, but I still don't like it.

Cecil Derenzi: wo shi jianada ren..wo bu shi zhongguo ren...danshi wo hen xihuan zhong nan. I disagree with you..you should come to wengehua(Vancouver) lotsa asian/white couples here.

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